Manifestation is all about intentionally creating what you want through your beliefs and actions. But is this possible? Can you really manifest anything you desire, including love? Or is all the talk about manifestation mere gibberish?
While the law of attraction is not an entirely new subject, the 2006 bestseller, The Secret book, was an eye-opener for many people.
Still, some struggle with intentionally creating what they want. And you probably landed on this page because you want to learn how to manifest your dream partner.
I’ll get into the simple but powerful steps to attract love into your life in a bit. But before then, here is a quick caveat.
You shouldn’t try to “force” someone to love you. Manifesting love is not the same as casting a love spell on someone. All humans have free will and you don’t want to mess with that.
This is another way of saying it is usually best to be open to unexpected results. Fixating on a specific person and trying to attract them into your life may cause you more pain in the end.
Okay, now that we have that out of the way, how do you manifest love?
Here are five steps to attract love into your life.
Step 1: Be Clear About What You Want
The first step to getting your desire is defining what you want in precise terms. If you don’t know exactly what you want, how would you recognize it?
Think about what you truly want and write it down.
Here are a few poor examples of what not to write:
- “I want to find true love.”
- “I want the perfect partner.”
These may sound like clear intentions but they are too broad. You’re not likely to get satisfactory results if you hold these types of thoughts.
What does true love mean to you? What qualities make someone a perfect partner?
There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to love. So, what one person may call “true love” can be a complete turn-off for you.
Here are a few tips to point you in the right direction:
- What are your expectations from a romantic relationship? Write down whether you want it to lead to marriage. Be specific about the type of commitment you want and if you want children.
- What qualities must the person have? Write as many must-have qualities you want.
- How do you want to feel when you finally have this person in your life? List down all the feelings.
Remember there is no right way of doing this, so don’t get hung up about making a perfect list.
But you want to focus beyond physical looks, jobs, and wealth. These things are superficial and don’t define true love.
Getting clear about your desires will keep you from falling for just about anyone who shows you some form of attention. Also, it helps you to identify what you want the moment it shows up.
Step 2: Let Go of Limiting Beliefs
Many people think it is hard to find love. This is especially the case if they feel lonely or hurt by previous romantic partners.
“True love doesn’t exist.”
“All men are scumbags!”
“Nobody wants me.”
But these are all excuses that reflect internal blockage caused by limiting beliefs. Keep in mind that your beliefs create your world – every single time.
Another way to say this is, you can only see and experience the world through your filters or cognitive biases.
Observe and it will become apparent that the person who sees love and beauty in everything is most likely to be happy most of the time. And the person who tends to be critical about everything is usually unhappy.
Each time you start to think negatively about finding or manifesting love, stop and redirect that thought.
Recognize the thought as a defense mechanism. It is trying to blame an event or someone else because you feel unloved or rejected.
Take a deep breath and focus on the many examples of love and happiness all around you. This shifts your energy and gets you ready for step 3.
Step 3: Focus on the Feeling of Love
We are all reaching for a variety of feelings every single day of our lives.
You think you want to manifest your dreams. You assume you want that great-looking partner or plenty of money. So, you work hard to achieve your goals.
But stop to think for a minute: why do you want these things?
To feel good!
You want a life partner because you want to feel good or feel loved. This applies to every other thing you want.
- You want more money because it makes you feel financially secure.
- You want good health because it makes you feel strong and healthy.
- You want to be physically fit because it makes you feel good about your body.
All of these and everything you ever want is to feel good.
The good news is that you don’t have to wait until you get these things or achieve your goals before you can feel good.
Start now to love yourself and feel good about it!
You must first love yourself before anyone else can reflect it to you. It is law!
Don’t know how to feel loved? Here are a few tips:
- Eat well
- Get enough sleep
- Treat your body well by exercising or staying in shape
- Go on a date by yourself and get special treatment
It doesn’t matter what you do. Simply do the things you truly like. This is an excellent way of putting out positive energy about what you want.
And what you put out will come back to you, multiplied!
Step 4: Take Action
One of the common mistakes people make about the law of attraction is visualizing without taking action.
Spending time imagining or visualizing is good. It helps boost the feeling of what you want as if it is already here with you.
But nothing will happen if you do nothing!
We live in a physical universe where “action” is a huge part of the manifestation process.
Prince Charming is not likely to show up out of the blue! Defining what you want and believing you can have it are all great steps. But you must take action when the opportunity presents itself. That’s the surest way to attract your dream partner.
In other words, be open to potential partners. It will be easy to recognize one if you follow the first step correctly.
Also, don’t be afraid to say no if the person doesn’t match what you want.
Step 5: Surrender
Surrendering is the last step in the manifestation process. Anyone who’s had any experience with manifesting love will tell you that this is not an easy step.
Surrendering and trusting the manifestation process can be a hard thing to do for many people. That is especially true in a world where we like to be in control all of the time.
But true love will only manifest when you surrender and trust the process.
Surrendering means:
- Being open to surprises
- Not being attached to specific outcomes or an individual
- Letting go of rigid, leaner thinking
- Allowing love to come to you in unexpected ways
The right person for you may not be your current crush. It could be someone you least expected.
You may not understand why this person is the best choice for you at the moment. But it may become apparent when you look back a few years down the line.
Are You Doing it Correctly?
Learning how to manifest love is not difficult but it is important to re-examine your practice once in a while.
You will notice coincidences if you are doing it right. Don’t ignore these signs. But you may be doing something off if you are not seeing any signs or you are feeling stuck.
Here are a few questions that can help you re-examine your manifestation practice:
- Did you need to be more specific with your goals? Putting out mixed signals will delay any manifestation.
- Are you being too specific? Remember that your ideal partner may not be someone you think. Also, they may not fit specific physical descriptions, such as tall, dark, and handsome!
- Are you having any fears or self-limiting beliefs? Let go of them because they are standing in the way of what you want.
- Are you taking action or putting it off? Are you brushing off positive coincidences? What actions do you need to take at the moment?
Final Thoughts
Manifesting love is easy. But first, you must believe in your worthiness. You are loveable and deserve to find true love and happiness.
This strong belief is what attracts love. Manifesting love is not about casting love spells. It has nothing to do with how old you are or your work. Your dream partner is on the other side of your fears and limiting beliefs.
The steps in this post will help you reframe your limiting beliefs and attract true love into your life.
