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Will I Ever Find Love? What Makes Finding Love Difficult

If you’re like me, you will spend hours on dating apps trying to find the right person.

And when I say “right,” that means my perfect match in terms of personality and values.

Will I ever find love? What makes finding love so difficult? How can I improve my chances of finding love? As someone single, what should I do while waiting for love to come into my life?

I’m sure these are questions that you and many others ask themselves every day.

While it may seem like finding a loving relationship is impossible, there are ways to increase your chances of finding the person you’re meant to be with.

We will discuss how to make it easier for yourself to find the one (or ones) that will be with you forever!

Reasons why you’re getting it hard to find love

For many, finding love always proves to be difficult.

What makes finding love so hard? There are a few reasons that may contribute to your struggle:

1. You are too picky

What makes finding love so difficult for me is the fact that I’m picky.

I find myself getting discouraged because I’m not meeting anyone great! Why should it be so hard to meet someone who can complete me?

The truth of the matter is that you’re going to want a partner who reflects your values and life goals as well as those of yourself. If you aren’t happy with what’s around you or don’t think highly enough about yourself, chances are others won’t either.

If you stop being too picky and have realistic standards, you will increase your chances of finding someone willing to love and accept you.

2. You’re meeting the wrong people

The wrong people will always come into your life.

While it’s important to meet lots of different individuals, you’ll want to be sure that the person(s) you’re meeting is/are worth your time and effort!

There are several types of people who may not be right for you:

  • People pleasers
  • Narcissists
  • Takers (aka users)
  • Needy partners, or
  • Those with commitment issues

With these details in mind, try sticking close to those who share similar interests as you. It will also be a great plus if they also have positive qualities like loyalty and honesty.

3. You’ve not healed from your previous relationship

It’s okay to grieve the loss of a relationship, especially if it was an emotionally draining one.

It may seem like you will never find love again or that there is no chance for happiness after experiencing such sadness from your previous partnership.

However, this isn’t true!

There are ways to get past the pain of a lost loved one and begin seeing your future in a new light.

To do this, you’ll want to make time for yourself.

Find hobbies that’ll help you heal from specific traumas or heartbreaks:

  1. Creating art about what happened can also be very therapeutic.
  2. Take up yoga or learn how to play an instrument if these things interest you.
  3. You may even consider joining therapy groups where people who have gone through similar experiences can support each other while they work on becoming whole again after experiencing loss.

If you want to make it easier on yourself and increase your chances of finding love in the future, don’t forget about self-care!

4. You’re not making the effort

What I’ve realized about finding love is that you have to be proactive.

If you aren’t out there meeting new people, how will it ever happen? Plus, the more time and energy you put into your search for true love, the better results you’ll get back!

Don’t let fear or self-doubt hold you back from trying something different. Whether it’s online dating or joining a group whose interests match yours.

The worst thing you can do after all – is nothing at all. If opportunities arise and you don’t take action on them, well then, what else could go wrong?

You may think that everyone around has some sort of secret weapon up their sleeve when it comes to making those connections with other people. You may even feel inferior to those who are in relationships or have found love at some point already!

However, the only way you’re going to meet someone is if you put yourself out there.

So get started now!

5. You have the wrong understanding of what love is

Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you’ll only find love if your standards are at a certain level.

Or, worse yet – if you lose weight or make more money!

Love is not earned. It’s simply meant to become explored whether with someone special or just as something fun and adventurous for yourself.

Love isn’t supposed to hurt either, so don’t try going after those who have commitment issues because they’re afraid of getting tied down!

It may sound cliché, but true love does exist out there somewhere waiting for all of us – even YOU!

So, never give up on finding it.

How can I improve my chances of finding love?

There are several ways to improve your chances of meeting someone special:

a. You can join a club that’ll help you meet new people

Or, if you’re more introverted, then consider online dating apps where the only limit is the number of profiles out there for you to get matched with!

You never know when the right person may appear in your life. I have a few friends who met their partners through these very apps.

So don’t give up just yet and remember that love is always waiting for YOU somewhere out there in this big world we live in.

Thus, break your barriers and get started now. You just might find true love faster than you ever thought.

b. Break any bad habits you may have

I know it may seem difficult to break old habits. Even so, once you do, I guarantee that your life will change for the better in every way possible.

If you want to meet someone who can truly appreciate you for who you are, then ensure you take care of yourself by giving up these damaging habits.

Some of these bad habits include:

  • Not staying physically active
  • Neglecting your self-esteem and letting it suffer over time because of toxic thoughts you have about yourself.
  • Addictions

Such habits will only hold back your dream man or woman from entering your life in the future.

So, don’t forget that love starts with loving oneself first before finding others worth sharing one’s heart and soul with.

With this newfound motivation and mindset, who knows? You might even find love without even trying too hard at all!

Remember: Don’t let fear hold you back. Be proactive instead when looking for love so you can improve your chances of finding what’s meant for YOU.

c. Get to understand yourself better

Love starts with understanding and loving oneself first.

Find what it is that makes you a person. Find what it is that you love and keep on doing it.

Love will follow once you start loving yourself more.

This is the best way to improve your chances of finding that special someone who can appreciate all of your unique qualities.

Start setting some goals – big ones if necessary. So that one day when love comes knocking on your door, that person will feel privileged. They’ll know they got through all of those barriers you’ve worked hard putting up over time.

You’re worthy of finding someone who loves everything about you. (Including every single thing you hate about yourself too)

d. Embrace physical fitness

If you don’t like what you see in the mirror or where your life’s heading at the moment, then it’s time for a change.

Now, I’m not saying you have to look like a supermodel or anything. That’s simply too overwhelming and stressful for many people out there.

All I’m suggesting is that you get off the couch and start staying physically active. Doing so will help you improve your health in general – mentally as well as physically.

e. Try to understand what your partner may want in a relationship

Before you even consider finding love, make sure that both of you are on the same page.

If not, then perhaps it may be best to part ways and find someone who truly understands what your needs are in a relationship.

For example:

Is it important to you that your partner is always there for you when needed? Do they need a lot of time alone to recharge themselves from all the stressors in life? Or, do they prefer spending more quality time together with their significant other at home. The list goes on and on!

These are just some of the issues that will need addressing sooner rather than later.

Don’t wait for something awful or tragic to happen before being open with each other about these topics. Otherwise, there’s no telling how far things might go down the road.

f. Scale-up your career

If you’re having money problems, then it may be time to consider scaling up your career.

Most often not talked about, it’s important to know what you want in your career before getting into a relationship. This way you’ll be able to make sure your partner is someone who can truly understand where you’ve come from.

No one wants to live their life feeling unhappy with the person by their side or think about how much more compatible they could have found elsewhere because of career-related issues.

What are the signs that will help me find my true match?

Some of them include:

a. The person you’re with is good to your family and friends

When someone truly loves you, they’ll usually want the very best for everyone around them too.

If their behavior contradicts this in any way, then it may be time to reconsider what’s going on between the two of you. It could also mean that something isn’t right or healthy about how things are progressing within your relationship as a whole either!

b. They listen when spoken to

Everyone gets into arguments sometimes. This includes even couples who love each other dearly (despite what many people think otherwise or see online).

This doesn’t mean that if one partner prefers not talking about things and avoids difficult conversations, that they aren’t right for you.

If anything else, it’s important to know the reason why your partner does this. It’s only through that that you can help them overcome their fears or discomfort.

c. They’re loyal and faithful to you – without a doubt!

No one should ever have to question whether or not someone truly loves or is truly committed to them. (That is, in any shape, way, or form)

If you have to ask yourself that question or worry about their behavior on any level, then chances are they’re not the person for you.

d. They want what’s best for both of you as a couple

Successful relationships are normally built upon trust and understanding. It won’t be near-possible to have these two things without communicating with one another.

When someone truly cares about your well-being, they’ll always put it before themselves in every way imaginable.

This means thinking twice if ever asked to compromise something important within the relationship. (which could potentially affect how long things last between the two of you)

e. They take care of themself physically & mentally

It’s an undeniable sign that someone’s ready for love when they’re able to take care of themself in a healthy manner.

This includes eating right, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep every night. It also means being always aware of their feelings on any given day too.

If they’re not doing these things or if you notice this behavior changing for the worse within your relationship, then it may be time to rethink your position.

f. They encourage new experiences together

Someone who truly loves another person will want nothing more than make big dreams come true. More so, when that relates directly to having fun together!

This way there’s always something exciting happening between the two of you that helps strengthen your bond from within.

g. They help keep your life balanced & under control

When two people are in love with one another, they’ll want nothing but to encourage their partner to reach greater potentials.

Most of the time, this comes to play when it comes to their career and personal goals too!

This includes being there every step of the way whenever possible.

h. They’re not afraid to be themselves around you

Being with someone who truly loves you should never feel like a chore or something that needs to happen at any cost!

If anything else, it’s an opportunity for both of you to explore your individuality and creativity together in new ways. This is exactly what love & relationships are all about when done right!


It’s important to find someone who will love you unconditionally. Someone willing to put your needs before theirs, and does things that make you happy.

It may seem like an impossible feat at first but it’s possible if you know what to look for!

You can start by looking for people who are loyal and faithful to you without question. Someone who wants the best of both worlds in regards to your relationship and work. Someone to encourage new experiences together, help keep your life under control, and who won’t shy away from showing their true self around you.

Once you identify these traits within a potential partner- then he/she’s worth exploring more deeply.

It may mean that you’re both ready for love!



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